Food for thought

It’s been a minute since I’ve written on here (or however many minutes are between the end of March and now…). But I had the itch to write today after my morning walk break. ~

Brene Brown writes that comparison is the thief of Joy.  I agree. I also agree that alternately compassion is the KEY to Joy.  I have been actively practicing more compassion for others in my life (a product of my life coaching group) and it has been a really beautiful thing.  It has forced me to put my ego aside and understand where someone else might be coming from and find a way to see things from their point of view.  It doesn’t always immediately feel fulfilling and wonderful to practice compassion; but I can say that at the end of the day I have a lot less angst and resentment coming home with me.  It definitely takes the ego out of the moment to not take things so personally.  I have thoroughly enjoyed the challenge of trying to practice these new skills every day.  I wish I could say that I was a happy and compassionate person every day… “I woke up like that”.  But that would be false.  It is definitely an easier tool to use with practice and I believe my overall human experience has been made better for actively and purposefully practicing things like love, compassion, tolerance, understanding and self-reflection.  When you have more compassion for others, you have more compassion for yourself.  Which makes you happier… and thus the circle continues.

So – just a little nugget of thought for this fine Tuesday afternoon… have a little compassion for the other squishy humans in your life.  Human-ing is hard.

We are all doing the best we can… with what we have… at this very minute.

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Book Ending March. 

The last post was the first of March and here I find myself on a flight home on the last day of March. 

I’m so looking forward to warm weather at home. My work takes me to warmer climates and it’s not until I get there that I realize how much I missed the sun on my face, the warmth, and less layers and layers and layers of snow that equal what seems like half of the year in Wisconsin. 

I’ve been making an effort to appreciate all the seasons (of life and the year). So, I appreciate winter and spring because it creates excitement and anticipation for summer. It makes summer feel special and a time to cherish and squeeze every last drop out of it that I can. 

That said, my appreciation has grown, but my patience… not so much. I’m appreciative, but over it. I’m ready to be in the “savor the moments of summer”, rather than the “bring an extra sweater and scarf” mode. 

I’m ready for the windows to be open and to be enjoying the outside with other people. I find summer to be a season that brings people together. I’ve spent the winter in a bit of a hermit mode and am looking forward to spreading my rusty wings and get out there!

In short, it’s been cool (literally) winter and spring… but I’m ready for a break. It’s not you, it’s me. I’m hooked on summer ☀️

The (hair) struggle is real

Does anyone else think about chopping off their hair at least once a day.  I’ve been going back and forth every day between “I’m going to cut all this off” and “but it takes so long to grow back out”.

I loved when my hair was shorter. It felt funky and I felt like I wore it down and/or actually did my hair more often.

However when my hair is long I like the way that looks as well. I’ve always thoughts beachy waves were a-maz-ing looking and even though my hair is naturally straight as a board, it still is a idea in the back of my mind that I could have long mermaid-ish beach hair… if only I had the patience to get there.

So – the question is… choppy choppy, or patience / mermaid hair… in training?

You know, the normal questions that keep a girl up at night.

Poem – Note to myself 

During my retreat to Orlando this past weekend with some visionary and amazing ladies, I was asked to write a love note to myself. What felt right for me was a poem. Though I don’t normally write poetry, I’m quite infatuated with it and wanted to share, because when I was done it didn’t feel like it was just for me – but for anyone and everyone.

 

Dear one,

You have always been joyous and free

It is YOU, who were meant to be

Born a wild and wonderful child of the sea

 

Waves have rocked and shaped you

Stars have guided you

Winds have kept your navigation sure and true

 

Through mighty storms and disastrous droughts

You’ve always known what this world was about

Which is making sure your insides shine OUT

 

Giving to others the gifts that they need

To ensure, that though they might cut open and bleed

It was only the promise of hope, that was planted there as a seed

 

Love comes bursting from your heart

Your life is your art

Never doubt you were created perfect, right from the start

 

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I found a me that looks around at the potential in others and the greatness in togetherness.

I found a kinder me.  Kinder to myself first, which then spread to kindness to those all around me.

I found myself allowing more gentleness, passion and play into my every day.

I found it okay to be vulnerable and became a seeker of more intimate and deep friendships and circles.

I found that at the end of the day – all things above have always been me… just covered up by years of being who I thought I should be.  Playing a role to best fit in.  Playing small to not stand out too much.  Playing it a bit safe at times even.  I found myself, and I loved what I found.

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In other news…

Lately it’s seems like there is so much drama in the lbc…

No, but really. Im not immune to the emotions that are running through our country/state/community right now. From rage to elation, from depression to indifference, from desperation to determination. 

This isn’t a post to tell anyone how to feel or even share how I feel (politically/emotionally/mentally/hungrily) because there’s so much of that being shared already on social media. 

It’s just to say that I’m just over here still eating too much Nutella. Working out every day. Sipping my wine. Loving my friends and family. Trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. Watching more of the TV show ‘Cops’ than most grown ups probably do. Taking all the pictures of my dogs. Trying to be the best wife, step mom, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, employee… ME… that I can be. I hope some of those efforts leak out onto the people I meet and brightens their days. 

Let’s all leak a little goodness on other people. 


And eat more Nutella.