Put me in coach… I’m ready to play…


I’ve been doing this life coaching thing since about February and I LOVE it.  It is such a great outlet for me to gently evaluate myself and where I’m at in life (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, etc) and non-judgmentally decide if I should stay the course, or pick a new navigational beacon to follow.

Some of my favorite topics so far have been:

Courageous Conversations: The ability to have a conversation where you intentions are pure and you care coming from a place of kindness.  My tendancy is to fall back to a place of sarcasm and deflection when I’m in a conversation I don’t care for.  Which, I still do most of the time, it’s just now I am aware of this tendency and can evaluate it as it’s happening, or after it has happened.  Mostly I now have the opportunity to really think about WHY that conversation made me uncomfortable or upset… which is really the heart of the issue.  Once I understand that, the courageous part of the conversation really falls into place.

Triggers: This has become quite the buzz word while I’ve been in this program. I don’t what else to call them… “shit that makes my eye twitch and makes me want to slap you”… is really long, so I guess we will stick with trigger.  It is so interesting to me to have better tools to sit back and think about WHY I’m triggered about something or someone.  It helps remove the raw edge off the feeling and replaces it with a curiosity and puzzle-aspect.

Embracing Imperfection: Being fine with not understanding, not doing the right thing, freaking out when you weren’t at your best, etc.  We are human.  The thing is to NOT beat yourself up about something you’ve already done (it’s in the past).  The only thing to do is move forward and treat it as a new tool. Every experience (good or bad) is a blessing in a sense because it means you’re still alive.  It’s an opportunity to learn and grow.  To find out how to repeat positive experiences, or how to avoid or ease away from negative experiences in the future.

It goes without saying that these are not earth-shattering ideas.  However, with an open heart and mind… they mean so much more.  When you are kindly curious about yourself and life, you become kinder to everyone in it… which includes yourself!!  THIS… has been the best gift.  A kindness to myself and love for myself which is still a work in progress, but totally invaluable in the long term.

I can’t say enough about the benefits of life coaching in person, through personal development books, audio books, youtube videos, etc. The time is NOW.  There are SO many resources out there for anyone who is just curious enough to want to better understand yourself.

If you want information about the life coaching program I’m going through, message me through the blog and I’d be happy to share.  I’ll be sharing some of the personal development videos, books, etc on here as well.

PS – Go get a massage.  You need it, even if you think you don’t.  You’re welcome.

Epiphanies Abound…

This year is definitely shaping up to be the year of growth for me.  Not physically of course, I’ve been 5’4 since as long as I can remember… and that hasn’t changed… but growth emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.

I’ve always had a fascination for “why”.  Why do we do the things we do, think the things we think, act the ways we act… so when I find little nuggets of knowledge that explain some of that… it’s very exciting.

Some of my recent epiphanies have been:

  1. I don’t in fact have to share everything about what’s going on in my life with everyone.  As a self-diagnosed “diarrhea of the mouth” sufferer, I tend to over-share about my life.  My life is in fact my own, my journey is my own, and I can choose to share (or not)… This might seem obvious to some people, but to me it was like permission to keep my own secret until I was ready to share it.  Which really felt like a gift to myself.
  2. Treating uncomfortable situations like experiments.  Have you had situations in life that you weren’t sure how to get around, deal with, handle?  Relationships, friendships, coworkers, careers…?  Well, when it was suggested to me to treat how I dealt with just one of those things as an experiment to better understand myself, it was a HUGE relief. There was no longer a right or wrong way to do it… just different experiments that would either have results that I liked or I didn’t.  This new lens at looking at perceived obstacles… was a welcome change for me!  I like solving problems, so it changed my perspective from anxious and negative, to interested and curious to see the outcome.
  3. Finding my tribe.  This, is something that sounds so awesome to me.  I love the idea of finding my niche.  However, I quickly discovered that sitting around waiting for my tribe to appear out of thin air… wasn’t how it worked.  I then started just kind of awkwardly asking people to be a part of my tribe…. and let me tell you something… being a mid-30’s person asking for someone to in essence be your friend, is SUPER vulnerable.  Even that wasn’t a wildly successful endeavor (as far as finding my tribe goes).  The people that were open to it, didn’t just start calling me every day to be a part of my life.  So, I found that (as with all things) I had to focus on myself.  Once I was more clear on the vibe I wanted to put out, and more true to that vibe… my tribe would then form a bit more naturally than just crossing my fingers and hoping.
  4. Standing in my truth.  What now?  Since I’m a visual person, I imagine standing in truth cement.  It’s a secure place that I want to discover, mold, create, where I can communicate more truthfully with others in my life.  When I’m backed into an uncomfortable communication corner, I often resort to humor and/or sarcasm to deal with it.  At the end of the day it does no one justice.  I don’t feel good when I have not been my authentic self, and sending out mixed signals with humor/sarcasm don’t get me to the end result I want out of most situations.
  5. The scale is a fickle bitch and can’t be trusted.  However, it can be used as an informational tool – if it must be used. I am an every day scale user. There is probably rehab for this sort of thing.  I definitely in the past have been emotionally tied up in what the scale showed me in the morning.  Since I started workout programs that included more weight lifting, I have a MUCH kinder relationship with the scale.  I treat it more as, “oh, I did XXX yesterday and the scale did YYY this morning”.  I’m not perfect, I still flip off the scale on mornings that I don’t like the numbers… my husband still offers to throw it in the trash and get a new one when I kick it and declare it must not be working right (he’s a good sport).  However, about 80% of the time I just shrug it off now… which is a HUGE accomplishment for me.

There is something so emotionally cleansing about having epiphanies and “aha” moments.  Moments where something that has been nagging at your subconscious because clear, anxious situations become bearable, and waffling on decisions turns into confident action.  Those moments to me feel like soul massages.  I feel lighter, less weighed down, and ready to take on whatever is next on this fantastical life journey.

Cheers to epiphanies, may they be pleasant and abundant!


3 Day Refresh – Review

A few things you should know before reading any further:

  1. I am a beachbody coach.
  2. I only completed 90% of the first day of this program before stopping.
  3. I love beachbody, their vision, and their programs (including the workouts and shakes).
  4. The 3 Day Refresh… was not for me.

I know so many people have had wonderous luck with this program.  People have lost between 3-10 pounds in just 3 days, their cravings were gone, their tummies less bloated, and overall looked and sounded pretty happy afterwards.  So, please do not let my opinion sway your overall decision, but I do want to give an honest review of how I felt it went.

Day 1 (and as it would turn out the only day):

  • Wake up and drink a cup of water – nbd, I like water.
  • Drink a vegan chocolate shake – I don’t like the vegan shakes, so this kinda bummed me out since I usually have café latte or regular chocolate shakes and I prefer their flavor and texture over the vegan chocolate.  I added some strawberries to the shake (per the plan) and threw a few in my mouth as well (since you get 12 of them).
  • Water, water, water (pee, pee, pee)
  • Have a glass of tea – nbd, I like tea as well
  • Water, water, water (pee, pee, pee)
  • Fiber sweep – there were a lot of bad reviews about this online, but I didn’t mind it.  I mixed it with 10 ounces of water and downed it faster than a college kid at a frat party.  Kinda lemony, but it didn’t bother me.
  • Water, water, water (pee, pee, pee)
  • Lunch – Vanilla Fresh Shake (kind of tastes like cereal milk, without the cereal).  With fruit, veggie and hummus.  I think my husband put it best when he said, “I found myself licking the container to try and get every ounce of hummus out of that thing.”  Because the shake was drank with it, I was relatively satisfied after lunch.  Full would be a strong word, content would be stretching it… but definitely not still hungry.
  • Water, water, water (pee, pee, pee)
  • Snack – veggie and hummus again.  Again – violation of tiny hummus bowl (2 Tbsp) commenced.
  • Water, water, water (pee, pee, pee) hungry, hungry, hungry
  • Have another glass of tea – nbd, I like tea as well — however, super hungry and the tea wasn’t really cutting it.
  • Dinner – Vanilla Fresh Shake again, and an option from the dinner list.  We did the stir fry veggies.  My husband sat across from me and next to his son.  He picked at his veggies while drooling over his son’s canned raviolis… bless his heart… my husband was holding out for me.
  • Water, water, water – still holding fork – staring down husband – reconsidering life choices – remembering why I never tried out for survivor, naked and afraid, or any other show where food wasn’t guaranteed.
  • Dinner 2.0 – Added a chicken breast and packaged up the rest of the refresh contents to return via the mail.
  • Day 2 – resumed normal eating, but my stomach was SO upset and bloated. Not sure if it was something to do with the shakes being different?  But my stomach didn’t feel right until what would have been Day 3.

Basically – it just wasn’t for me.  I spent the entire day worrying about what I was going to eat, when I was going to eat it, how I was going to gum 12 strawberries to feel more like 27 strawberries. I didn’t have much weight to lose, my husband was only doing it for moral support… our hearts just weren’t in it… and our stomach’s and resolve were empty.

Again – I do believe that this is a good jump start for people looking to jump start their body and minds onto a new path.  With the right mindset, and the okay-ness with a lack of solid food… this could totally be the program for you!

I’m happy to answer any questions you might have about it, just know I chose not to finish it… so I can only speak to what I did complete.

Peace out!


February Follies

Month two of 2016.  Today went pretty well as far as Mondays go!  Had a good work day, got laundry and dishes done early in the morning, got my workout(s) in, ate healthy all day, booked more stuff for my birthday trip to Napa Valley and also booked stuff for an awesome trip in March to celebrate awesome ladies supporting each other, networking, healing, learning, growing <– need I go on?  And… it’s in Orlando.  PS, that’s a helluva lot warmer than Wisconsin in March.

I have had so much on my mind lately.  The days are flying by and the nights are filled with weird stress dreams.  I have discovered a few things about myself lately…

  1. I do not like booking my own travel arrangements for vacations.  There are SO many options, prices, experiences, adventures… man oh man.  I’d much rather go on a structured/planned trip that someone else planned.  I have spent more hours thinking about and pondering what to do on my birthday trip to Napa, than I will actually spend in Napa!!  How crazy is that??  Lesson learned – just find a travel agent or friend that really digs that shit and just give them money or wine to do it for me.
  2. I am on a constant journey to better myself.  I am always open to ways to change, evolve, reflect, grow, enhance both myself and my life.  I hope this never changes, I enjoy flexing the muscles of my life to see where I can go and what I can do.
  3. I have a gum problem.  I chew like 8,371 pieces in a day when I’m stressed.  Is there support groups for this?
  4. I am so much more accepting of my body than I was even 6 months ago.  Focusing on eating clean and working out has given me such a different perspective and appreciation for my body and the things that it can do.  I take time every day to love all the bits!

Life has its ups and downs, and lately for me life has had many more ups than downs.  I’ve been really trying to find ways to fully appreciate and acknowledge this phenomenon since I know that might not always be the case :)  Appreciating the small things and each other.

Also – trying to be the biggest, best, badassiest version of myself that this universe will allow!  Which, is a pretty damn cool thing to think about every day.


Staying on track!

This was a travel week for work for me. I was determined to stay on track for my workouts. So, I packed enough food and shakes to eat almost every meal in my hotel room.


This definitely set me up for success this week and kept me from being tempted. Id rather save my cheat meals with my husband, good wine, and good food… Than because I didn’t plan well and made bad choices while traveling.

I also worked out in the hotel fitness center in order to stay on track with the workouts and use the weights. I was a little nervous, but it all worked out well!


I also found a great book at the airport on my way out of town… Read it!  I felt totally inspired and fired up!  Self-help with swear words  my kind of read.


I also was training people all week, and that went really well. It’s  awesome when people are engaged and listening to what you have to say… Especially when you’re only reason for doing it is to make sure THEY succeed!!

Im so glad to be heading home tomorrow to the dogs, husband and my own bed!!

Invisalign – Before and After

Since I’ve shared some other before and after photos recently, I would like to share my invisalign before and after photos:

I had 47 aligners.  So, that’s 94 weeks of invisalign plus 1 year of wearing my retainer every day and night, and now I wear my retainer every night (and will continue to forever).

I had braces as a middle schooler, and didn’t wear my retainer.  As my teeth shifted as an adult, I become more and more insecure about them.  I hated seeing my teeth in pictures, it was ALL I saw in every picture I took.  If you are on the fence about getting invisalign… I say do it.  You will invest so much money in other stuff in your life… why not this?  Why not invest in your smile?

I’ve never lost one minute of sleep over the cost of my invisalign.  I have gained tons of confidence and now LOVE my pictures and my smile.

New Breakfast Find, Yoga, and Progress!

I usually start my day with a Shakeology shake, but I love breakfast food!  So, I often have breakfast for lunch, or a snack even if I need to get some extra protein in and am craving some eggs.

I saw this idea and just had to try it:


Banana pancakes: 1/2 banana, 1 egg, cinnamon to taste. Cook like regular pancakes. Makes 1 serving.

It was pretty tasty. I could taste the banana, but it definitely has an essence of pancake. I could have added fruit as a topping… But already have my fruit containers for the day (I’m following the 21 day fix program).

This helped fuel my active recovery workout for the day, yoga fix.


I really enjoyed this workout today, I’m not very versed in the yoga poses, so I won’t even try telling you the names of the poses above :)

I’ve been following the 21 Day Fix program “officially” for 7 days now.  I’ve lost about 4.5 pounds and can tell that I’ve toned up a big around my mid section.  I have loved the new exercises (I was doing T25 for the last 9 weeks).  Here are my week 1 progress photos.  Top row is today, bottom row (in shorts) is day 1.

Week 1 complete of 21 Day Fix

Week 1 complete of 21 Day Fix

I’m enjoying the rest of this glorious lazy day by couching it with my husband, watching the Green Bay Packer playoff game (hopefully it goes well) and will be cooking up some food for the week in just a little bit.

Have a great week!