There are Five Love Languages – What’s Yours?

Whether you’re in a relationship, or not… I found this quiz to be really enlightening to who I am as a person and the kind of love that I need.  I have to credit our Pre-Marital Counselor, Pastor Rom, in pointing us to this book.  He stressed the importance of learning eachother’s love languages and it has really been a fun adventure to figure out together.

From the love languages website (where you can take this quiz for FREE online <– Read: There is no reason not to do it):

Love Language Personal Profile

Interpreting Your Profile Score

The highest score indicates your primary love language (the highest score is 12). It’s not uncommon to have two high scores, although one language does have a slight edge for most people. That just means two languages are important to you.

The lower scores indicate those languages you seldom use to communicate love and which probably don’t affect you very much on an emotional level. Learn more about your primary love language and how to put it to use next to the corresponding badge below.

Important to Remember

You may have scored more highly on certain love languages than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your partner may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand this about him/her.

In the same way, it will benefit your partner to know your primary love language in order to best express affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. Every time you or your partner speak each other’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, improved romance.

If your partner has not already done so, encourage him/her to take The Love Languages Profile. Discuss your respective love languages, and use this insight to improve your relationship

My score:

9 Acts of Service
9 Quality Time
8 Physical Touch
3 Words of Affirmation
1 Receiving Gifts

Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.
What’s your score?  Your Partners?
Yes, Jason took this as well and it was very fun and interesting to go over the results together.  It has been a nice point of reference.  Jason’s top two were Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation.  This has helped me to remember that when things are tense I should make an extra effort to focus on those two areas that are important to him.  This has definitely not made me a “perfect” spouse (as if there is such a thing) but I do feel like it has given me some insight into how I can do the best that I can on my end of the relationship!
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