This is a good one.
I just got back from spending seven days in Mexico with a bunch of amazing women. We spent time at the beach, at the pool, in sessions together, and lots of time laughing. That was a beautiful experience… however my favorite way to the spend the day is still relaxing somewhere that feels like home.
Here is how my perfect day would go:
- I’d wake up without an alarm clock, but still around 7am because mornings are my favorite.
- I’m also clearly not working on my favorite day, which should be obvious… but I’ll call it out here just in case.
- I’d put on some comfortable clothes, throw on some warm slippers and beach wave my hair (because I like when it has a little volume… even when I’m relaxing).
- I’d let the dogs in who are so sweet and lazy in the morning.
- I’d have a coffee and an apple cider donut in my kitchen with the morning sunlight streaming in from outside… wrapped in a blanket and fending off Mya’s advances towards me and my donut.
- I’d spend some time watching whatever I wanted in the morning on the TV (because most likely Jason and/or Vincent are still sleeping) and checking my phone far too much.
- I’d put on some workout clothes and take the dogs for a walk… because on my favorite day it is super pleasant outside.
- I’d probably have some kind of avocado chicken sandwich/wrap for lunch with some fruit and then some chocolate(s). If this favorite day is not totally grounded in reality… then I’d really like tiramisu as my dessert… but it would have to be straight from Italy.
- I’d definitely do something crafty (make a necklace, paint something, read a book)… probably while enjoying a glass of wine.
- I’d also have some kind of epic series on my laptop to listen to while crafting (LOTR, Hobbit, Harry Potter, Alien, Underworld, Resident Evil, etc, etc). — Jason will be in his happy place playing his video game on the main tv.
- I’d probably take a nap while crafting – on accident or on purpose. With all the windows open and a beautiful breeze blowing through (and Jason would kill any fly that threatened my slumber).
- I’d invite friends and family over to do crafty relaxy things with me.
- I’d light the best smelling candle, probably from Bed Bath and Beyond.
- Jason and I would enjoy a nice dinner which he makes on the grill because he is the grill master and the smell of a charcoal grill is divine.
- All my Pottery Barn candles would have turned around by dinner time and they will be flickering with the most delightful fake flames.
- Then we would sit around the fire at night and listen to music and relax. I’d be wrapped up in my most cozy blanket and when I was tired would have the short commute of walking to my bedroom.
- My friends and family have all gone home or crashed on the couch before I go to bed… or I kick them out when I’m tired because it’s MY favorite day… which has an early bedtime too.
- On my favorite day I’ve also been taking the best pictures all day long and posting them on all the social media because I love to share.
It’s been a minute since I’ve written on here (or however many minutes are between the end of March and now…). But I had the itch to write today after my morning walk break. ~
Brene Brown writes that comparison is the thief of Joy. I agree. I also agree that alternately compassion is the KEY to Joy. I have been actively practicing more compassion for others in my life (a product of my life coaching group) and it has been a really beautiful thing. It has forced me to put my ego aside and understand where someone else might be coming from and find a way to see things from their point of view. It doesn’t always immediately feel fulfilling and wonderful to practice compassion; but I can say that at the end of the day I have a lot less angst and resentment coming home with me. It definitely takes the ego out of the moment to not take things so personally. I have thoroughly enjoyed the challenge of trying to practice these new skills every day. I wish I could say that I was a happy and compassionate person every day… “I woke up like that”. But that would be false. It is definitely an easier tool to use with practice and I believe my overall human experience has been made better for actively and purposefully practicing things like love, compassion, tolerance, understanding and self-reflection. When you have more compassion for others, you have more compassion for yourself. Which makes you happier… and thus the circle continues.
So – just a little nugget of thought for this fine Tuesday afternoon… have a little compassion for the other squishy humans in your life. Human-ing is hard.
We are all doing the best we can… with what we have… at this very minute.
The last post was the first of March and here I find myself on a flight home on the last day of March.
I’m so looking forward to warm weather at home. My work takes me to warmer climates and it’s not until I get there that I realize how much I missed the sun on my face, the warmth, and less layers and layers and layers of snow that equal what seems like half of the year in Wisconsin.
I’ve been making an effort to appreciate all the seasons (of life and the year). So, I appreciate winter and spring because it creates excitement and anticipation for summer. It makes summer feel special and a time to cherish and squeeze every last drop out of it that I can.
That said, my appreciation has grown, but my patience… not so much. I’m appreciative, but over it. I’m ready to be in the “savor the moments of summer”, rather than the “bring an extra sweater and scarf” mode.
I’m ready for the windows to be open and to be enjoying the outside with other people. I find summer to be a season that brings people together. I’ve spent the winter in a bit of a hermit mode and am looking forward to spreading my rusty wings and get out there!
In short, it’s been cool (literally) winter and spring… but I’m ready for a break. It’s not you, it’s me. I’m hooked on summer ☀️
Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow.
Found on La Petite Farmhouse’s Facebook page
Does anyone else think about chopping off their hair at least once a day. I’ve been going back and forth every day between “I’m going to cut all this off” and “but it takes so long to grow back out”.
I loved when my hair was shorter. It felt funky and I felt like I wore it down and/or actually did my hair more often.
However when my hair is long I like the way that looks as well. I’ve always thoughts beachy waves were a-maz-ing looking and even though my hair is naturally straight as a board, it still is a idea in the back of my mind that I could have long mermaid-ish beach hair… if only I had the patience to get there.
So – the question is… choppy choppy, or patience / mermaid hair… in training?
You know, the normal questions that keep a girl up at night.
During my retreat to Orlando this past weekend with some visionary and amazing ladies, I was asked to write a love note to myself. What felt right for me was a poem. Though I don’t normally write poetry, I’m quite infatuated with it and wanted to share, because when I was done it didn’t feel like it was just for me – but for anyone and everyone.
You have always been joyous and free
It is YOU, who were meant to be
Born a wild and wonderful child of the sea
Waves have rocked and shaped you
Stars have guided you
Winds have kept your navigation sure and true
Through mighty storms and disastrous droughts
You’ve always known what this world was about
Which is making sure your insides shine OUT
Giving to others the gifts that they need
To ensure, that though they might cut open and bleed
It was only the promise of hope, that was planted there as a seed
Love comes bursting from your heart
Your life is your art
Never doubt you were created perfect, right from the start
I personally have been touched by this beautiful program. It’s a program put together for women who want more. I didn’t know what to expect when I signed up a year ago, however one year later… I can say what I got.
I found a gentler me.
I found a me that believes in magic and the beauty of ALL women.
I found a me that looks around at the potential in others and the greatness in togetherness.
I found a kinder me. Kinder to myself first, which then spread to kindness to those all around me.
I found myself allowing more gentleness, passion and play into my every day.
I found it okay to be vulnerable and became a seeker of more intimate and deep friendships and circles.
I found that at the end of the day – all things above have always been me… just covered up by years of being who I thought I should be. Playing a role to best fit in. Playing small to not stand out too much. Playing it a bit safe at times even. I found myself, and I loved what I found.
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