I discovered years ago that your attitude and outlook on life greatly depends on what you spend your energy on. This might seem like a totally obvious statement, and I would agree, but would argue that it is something that is so obvious… it’s easy to overlook.
I discovered that how I spent my spare time greatly influenced my mood. I mean even the silly things like the conversations I chose to have, the images I chose to look at via Pinterest/Instagram/Google searches, the books I read, the movies I watched, and most importantly how I talked to myself as well.
If I spent my energy telling myself stories about how retched the world was, how evil my friends were, how the universe conspired against me… OF COURSE I then walked around with my tin foil hat and gun set to stun. Any action that happened around me was seen through this Darth Vader type lens I was wearing. You were either with me, or against me. How DRAINING it was. I spent more time conspiring than inspiring, which just equals a big fat waste of time.
So, I started spending my time with people who I aspired to be like, the kind of people that sent out that vibe of ease and acceptance of the world. I started doing hobbies that tapped into my creativity and made me feel good about myself. I started assuming the best, and stopped the bullshit stories. Okay, well… maybe I’m a good story teller, so I still circle a bit in fantastical fucked up stories… but in general catch myself and stop it before it can seriously alter my mood for the day.
This choice of how / who / when / what to spend my energy on… has been a game changer for me. As I get older, I only find better ways to spend my energy. It’s like, the more efficient I get at being positive, the more energy I have available to me to do cool shit!! It’s a very rewarding system. However, it is still a act that takes practice. Daily conscious practice to be positive. CHOSE to spend my time in a way that best puts me in the path of my dreams and aspirations. Because, I’m really hoping to continue to grow, change, and be more awesome every day/week/year of my life… and I can’t imagine doing that if I’m leaking negative energy all over the place.
So, cheers to positivity. May it be a happy practice that everyone can incorporate into their daily lives. I personally find that laughter, good souls, wine, cheese, and chocolate can be gateways into positivity… in case you are struggling to find it.
My Aunt, myself and my Grandmother. A couple people who know how to radiate positivity and love.